Thursday, 27 July 2017

How to be a single mum

No.. seriously... how?!

Is there a club I join now? Can someone please induct me because I have no idea what I am doing here and I am literally going in blind.

Until two weeks ago, I never could have imagined this would be in my future.

There's so much to consider that I could have never prepared for.

The main things that are scaring me at this stage are finances and less time with my little man because now I need to share him with someone who isn't a part of me anymore.

How do you deal with being away from them for so long? I get limited time with him as it is due to work and now I have to give up some of that time?

I am not mentally prepared... but I have to be strong because I want him to have a wonderful relationship with Ben. They are great together and just because we failed our relationship, it doesn't mean we have to fail at parenting. We just have to work harder at making it work. I know we can work as a team... we've done it for so long. Now, our only focus is our son.

I'm also scared of being alone and the thought of never having any more children or never getting married really makes me sad. I guess these thoughts are just normal break up feelings and I will get over them and eventually I will move on.

Even if I never have more children or never marry, I have the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. I have my son who is more than capable of lighting up my life every single day.

He's all I will ever need and anything else that comes my way in the future is just a bonus.

Please leave any tips or words of encouragement or support for me in the comments. I would love to hear from you all! 

Here's to keeping on smiling.

Tahana xo 


  1. Babe I can't even imagine how hard this is going to be for you and what a big change it will be. But you have the support from all of us and I'm only a phone call away if you need to vent. I don't know why life plays out like this sometimes but you've got this. Sending love ❤️❤️

  2. That's all you can do, keep on smiling and stay positive! I suppose you can never prepare yourself for big changes in life but do trust yourself and know you're doing the best you can :) By the way, your baby boy has inherited your gorgeous smile! So cute!!
    Isabella |

  3. Achillies is so lucky to have you as his mummy. I'm so proud of you and lucky to call you my friend. I know in life we can't control what happens to us but your positivity and how your handling yourself just shows the beautiful life you two will have ♥️

  4. You are going to continue being an ace mum and I know that Achilles is so so lucky to have you <3 Sending so much love and support, if you need anything at all I'm just a text message away!

    Kate xxx

  5. You are so brave for sharing this with us. That means you can be brave enough to be happy and show the love and happiness that your son deserves to see in you. Just remember Life is beautiful and happiness will prevail :)

  6. Andrea Clifton27 July 2017 at 14:43

    Sending love and hugs at this difficult time. You can do this and continue to co parent together. Plus when the time is right you will find someone that will love and appreciate you for the beautiful person you are. Xoxo

  7. I can't even imagine how difficult this would be but you're strong and you can do it! You're already focussing on your son together so everything is on track. Wishing you the best :) xx

  8. You're an amazing mum, and I'm sure you'll figure it out! All you can do is try. I'm sure you'll learn over time what works and what doesn't work, just like motherhood xx

  9. You sound like an amazing mom. You are beyond lucky to have such a joyful and impactful son in your life!

  10. You sound like a wonderful and brave mum. Everything you are feeling and going through right now will make you stronger!

    Amy |

  11. My partner and I split up 2 years ago. Things went sour very quickly. You need to reassess yourself and make sure your looking after yourself.
    If the break up is affecting your financial situation, sit down, take a big breath and budget. Talk to your friends, especially when your feeling down.
    I found taking my son out for a mother and son day ever week, no phone no Facebook etc made me connect better with him.

    If possible try stay friends with your bubs dad. It is much easier to talk and work things out for your child then in an angry and in a continuous arguement with your ex...

    From your snaps and Instagram your a great mum who loves your son! Your doing an awesome job xx


  12. I've followed you on Insta for a few years now ,

    Being a single mum isn't easy , but trust me it isn't always hard ,
    stay positive and remember that things happen for a reason :) ,

    Your a great mum and his very lucky to have you !!

    Enjoy the time you have with him even if you feel like it's not enough , in his little eyes I'm sure it is , their is no written book on how to do it , but us mums are amazing and can do anything we put our mind too

    Good luck x :)

  13. Can't imagine how you're feeling currently, sending you lots of posivity and hope you look after yourself. All I can tell you is my parents remained friendly and co-parented my brother and I and it made all the difference, they were so much more civil than other divorced parents and I can't tell you how much easier it made the whole process. Making the child the #1 priority is so important and I know your son will thank you in the long run. Lots of love x

  14. Oh no Tahana! I'm so sorry to hear this, but I'm sure its for the best, sending positivity and love your way! I know that Achilles and you will help each other through... Xx

    Kez |

  15. I'm really sorry to hear that you are feeling down but you are right; you will spring back! I don't have any experience to offer because I can't imagine what you are going though but my mum was a single mum my whole life and she was totally kick ass at it! I am sure you will be just as amazing.

    Emma | Rosy Disposition

  16. We've already chatted about lots but just wanted to say that you are one of the strongest people I have ever met and I know you will get through this time!!! Achilles is lucky to have you as his amazing Mum and you guys will always have each other. Sending you so much love xx

    Sarah x

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